Did I miss the explanation, world building moment or historical gem that explains why women have a safe hand and why they must keep it covered?
No, you haven’t missed it. People have asked about this. There will be more explanation in-world as it comes along, but it’s for much the same reason that in some cultures in our world you don’t show people the bottoms of your feet, and in other cultures showing the top of your head is offensive. It’s part of what has grown out of the Vorin culture, and there are reasons for it.
One of them has to do with a famous book, Arts and Majesty, written by an artist who claimed that true feminine pursuits and arts were those that could be performed with one hand, while masculine arts were those performed with two hands, in a way associating delicacy with women and brute force with men. Some people in Roshar disagree with this idea, but the custom has grown out of that foundational work on masculine and feminine arts. That’s where that came from. One aspect of this is that women began to paint one-handed and do things one-handed in upper, higher society. You’ll notice that the lower classes don’t pay a lot of attention to it—they’ll just wear a glove.
As a student of human nature and of anthropology, it fascinates me how some cultures create one thing as being taboo whereas in another culture, the same thing can be very much not taboo. It’s just what we do as people. I can trace the original inspiration of the safehand to Koreans not showing people the bottom of their feet because they felt that that is an insult—that’s not something you do.
There’s more to it than that, but that will stand for now.